There’s just so much no one talks about when it comes to preparing yourself to be a mom. Some of that is because we were designed to forget. We remember the good more than we remember the bad. It’s instinctual. It keeps us going and doing it all over again. It’s why everyone likes to say, “you’re going to miss it.” But they forget.
Read moreAnxiety is all about will – it’s the thing that happens to us when we believe that we can, and then we can’t, control the future.
Read moreBut here’s the truth: I am a lot smarter than I let on. And I am not saying that for an ego boost or to prove something to you. Those who know me personally probably characterize me as self-deprecating, possibly a little ditzy, so this comment probably seems uncharacteristic.
Read moreWho knew that my most pivotal parenting moments would happen from my knees instead of towering above the little people I’ve birthed? How humbling. And how reassuring. Everything I’ve been through, especially the really hard things, I will probably use to not only relate to others but to help others.
Read moreI purchased a new swaddle cloth set for the baby that came with either a bow or a plain cap. And, I packed it into the new diaper bag – in a well-hidden compartment – that we would take to the hospital, (just in case “she” would surprise us all).
The same heart-sinking, depleted wave of guilt rushes over my body from my face to my toes.
What do the next ten years look like for us? I’ll have to be o.k. not knowing.
To ask the person going through the hard-thing to also come up with ways everyone else should help them feels like another item on their list of hard that they have to manage.
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