There’s just so much no one talks about when it comes to preparing yourself to be a mom. Some of that is because we were designed to forget. We remember the good more than we remember the bad. It’s instinctual. It keeps us going and doing it all over again. It’s why everyone likes to say, “you’re going to miss it.” But they forget.
Read moreAnxiety is all about will – it’s the thing that happens to us when we believe that we can, and then we can’t, control the future.
Read moreBut here’s the truth: I am a lot smarter than I let on. And I am not saying that for an ego boost or to prove something to you. Those who know me personally probably characterize me as self-deprecating, possibly a little ditzy, so this comment probably seems uncharacteristic.
Read moreWho knew that my most pivotal parenting moments would happen from my knees instead of towering above the little people I’ve birthed? How humbling. And how reassuring. Everything I’ve been through, especially the really hard things, I will probably use to not only relate to others but to help others.
Read moreThese wild boys-who-will-become-young-men can ask their mom the hard, and uncomfortable questions. I do not want them to be afraid of me or my reactions.
Six years ago wasn’t that long ago but everything has changed. When I remember her, I don’t think of how perfect she was, because she was anything but. But, she had freedom in her choices and life was so beautifully simple. So this in-between I’m living in, is that forever?
Mommies don’t do everything right. You are your own person. I support you in your decisions and I am here for you when you fall. Because darling – you will fall. That is what life is all about.
I’ve said over and over that my boys have broken me, and while that is true, their wild ways and deep, deep love continue to heal me, daily.
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